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How to Say “NO!”

Published: May 1, 2015

When you’re in a relationship, sometimes you can feel like there is pressure to have sex. However, you have to remember that it’s OK to say “no!”

If you’re in a situation where you don’t feel comfortable, here are some ways to say NO to sex:

Scenario #1:

If your partner says: “If you really loved me, you would have sex with me”

Response: “If you love me, you wouldn’t push me to do something that I’m not comfortable or ready for yet.”

Scenario #2:

If your partner says: “Everyone’s doing it”

Response: “No, not everyone is doing it. People say they do it to impress their friends and to fit in. I’m okay with not fitting in.”

Scenario #3:

If your partner says: “Have sex with me or I’ll find someone else who will.”

Response: “This shows me how little you care about me.”

Scenario #4:

If your partner says: “You’re missing out.”

Response: “No I am not. It’s okay to not be ready for sex.”

You don’t have to say these responses word for word, but if you’re feeling guilty or uncomfortable about saying “no,” remember that it is okay. A respectful partner won’t try to take advantage of you or try to pressure you into something you’re not ready for. Take a stand and say “NO.” The power is in your hands.